I'm a Lost Soul with no purpose!

A client once told me, "I’m a lost soul with no purpose. Each day it gets worse. I need to "figure it out", or why live? Nothing ever changes." Because of my profession, people call me every day who feel that their lives are a "mess", that they are victims of circumstances and situations that are out of their control, and who continue to re-live patterns of behavior that sabotage, defeat, and dis-empower their lives.

I noticed that these people who are desperate for change have several things in common. The first thing is that none of them EXPECT anything to change. This in turn feeds the same reoccurring habit – they are focused on what they do NOT want. The old habits, fears and prejudices that come from previous experiences rear their ugly heads. If we become frozen by our fears it is helpful to identify them, find out where they come from, and then finally learn the tools to release them.

A friend asked once why she attracted the same type of man into her life over and over again. She then named several qualities, which she considered to be negative and did not want in a mate nor in a relationship. She had been focusing on that which she did not want, and coming from intense fear that each time she met a man he would "be just like the others". She was feeling in a lack of what she really wanted and was coming from "that place." Since like energy attracts like energy, (and her energy was full of fear), she had been creating in her reality exactly what she feared the most. She had been creating "by default."

I suggested to my friend that I teach her some tools to learn that would help to manifest her dreams – in all areas of her life. She was excited that she finally had a "place to start." One modality is Time Line Therapy ™, which was very effective in helping to eliminate limiting belief systems about herself and the world around her. It is also useful in resolving those unresolved negative emotions, such as fear, anger, guilt and sadness. Sometimes it may take getting to the root of the problem to understand where our patterns of behavior come from. Sometimes the unconscious mind represses memories (sometimes from trauma or "not so nice experiences"). With a simple technique, she understood where her issues stemmed from and was able to have a positive knowing from the experience. She was able to integrate it into her consciousness with understanding and awareness. Those old fears and limiting belief systems that she had incorporated into her life started to dissolve. She came to see that she is an unlimited perfect human being that is right where she needs to be, and that she is responsible for, and in control of, her own happiness. All she needed was some direction and the tools to do it!

The next step was to integrate this into her life NOW and help her create her future. She already knew what she didn't want so it was easy to see the contrast and identify what she DID want. She started composing affirmations surrounding what she wanted in all areas of her life. We also used Time Line Therapy™ to insert goals in her future. This tool became invaluable to her. It entails not only visualizing what you want, but also FEELING what it is like to have the goal completed already - in the now, at the present time – and to feel appreciation and gratitude. It is also important to USE YOUR IMAGINATION and add all of the other senses to the picture: in other words, to give it life!